Wine Talk with Amber

“No matter how far I go, no matter how long it takes, no one or nothing can change, forever yours here I stand.” Dear Black Man, Why is it that you cannot commit to this beautiful black woman? I mean, we hold you down don’t we? You want me to stand by your side through thick and thin right? But oh god, I dare not say the forsaken word: marriage . As soon as you hear the word you go running! I am just simply confused. What is it about marriage that scares you? I mean I can be with you for over ten years but you think things will change if we get married. UMM HELLO, it’s called BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP. Relationships are not fun and games forever. Yeah, there are great times in relationships and ideally everyone would love to have fun with their partner every single day but that’s just not going to be the case, ever. People grow, People change. Can’t deal with it? STAY SINGLE. I mean I would really respect you much more if you would just admit that you aren’t ready for the commitme...

“Live your truth and stop settling for less than you deserve because it makes you temporarily happy.” What is my truth? I’ve been asking myself this for a very long time. All I know is that I haven’t been living it. I pretend that I am living because of temporary happiness, which most of us do. We pretend. We settle for less because we know it’s making us happy for the moment. But what is our truth? We can label ourselves as many things but is it true? Okay, I’ll tell you guys a little story about myself. I’m only twenty three years old. I was dating someone for a number of years (I know, I’m so young to be dating someone for years… but that has significance to the story). So anyways, I really loved this guy, I loved being around him, I loved smelling his scent and I just couldn’t be away from him for too long. But with this comes my territorial issues. I am very possessive to say the least when I find someone that I can completely be myself around (as this is a hard task for ...