A Letter to my Man

“No matter how far I go, no matter how long it takes, no one or nothing can change, forever yours here I stand.”

Dear Black Man,
Why is it that you cannot commit to this beautiful black woman? I mean, we hold you down don’t we? You want me to stand by your side through thick and thin right? But oh god, I dare not say the forsaken word: marriage. As soon as you hear the word you go running! I am just simply confused. What is it about marriage that scares you? I mean I can be with you for over ten years but you think things will change if we get married. UMM HELLO, it’s called BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP. Relationships are not fun and games forever. Yeah, there are great times in relationships and ideally everyone would love to have fun with their partner every single day but that’s just not going to be the case, ever. People grow, People change. Can’t deal with it? STAY SINGLE. I mean I would really respect you much more if you would just admit that you aren’t ready for the commitment rather than you stringing me along like a yoyo. Using me when I am most convenient for you. Why must you play with my feelings like this if you know you aren’t going to marry me? I mean those four, five, six, seven years could have been dedicated to the man that can’t see his life without me, his wife. But I’m not here to bash you I’m simply writing this letter to ask a question; why is it that you cannot commit to this beautiful black woman? Is it because you don’t want to destroy that silly little fantasy that there are just thousands of other girls just DYING to sleep with you? Is it because you think the wedding band has some weird little spell that makes me turn into Lucifer’s daughter who doesn’t want to have sex with you anymore but instead wants to control your life? Oh wait, or is it because you think I’m going to eventually divorce you and take the little bit of money that you so called claim to have? I DON’T WANT YOUR MONEY. I WANT YOUR COMMITMENT. And you should know that because I’ve been with you this long. All I want in return is for you to make the sacrifice of being selfless and doing something that would be better for both of us in the long run. Tie the knot is what they say right? I mean how do you expect to take a smooth jog in the morning if the laces on your shoes aren’t secured tight? That’ll probably go right over your head, but the fact of the matter is that I shouldn’t have to wait until I am 30+ for you to say okay let’s get married if we’ve been together since we were 19. It just doesn’t add up. And I’m not rushing you baby, I’m just trying to let you know that I don’t want to argue with you when I simply ask a question about our future. Why does this question have to turn into us screaming at each other and you going out for a drink with the boys? I’m just trying to make sure your timeline matches mine. That’s all. Because there is no need to waste each other’s time if this isn’t what you want. Don’t worry, you’ll be fine without me as I will be without you. In time. But before we get to that point I just gotta ask: Why is it that you cannot commit to this beautiful black woman?
Signed,

Your Longgggg Time Girlfriend

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